Dating Services

Mystery’s conversation starter neg.

Tue, 22 Apr 2008 17:15:36 +0000

Hone your conversation so it’s not beginner clunky or too smooth slick. The TV character Mystery uses this conversation starter using a negative: "Why am I drawn to you? You need to rationalize it to me." She’ll say something then you say: "Beauty is commonplace in (whatever town you’re in). You know what’s very rare" She’ll say something. Then mystery says: " 3 things: Is great energy, great personality and a great outlook." You got 2 out of 3."

I’m sure every one has heard it by now but using any variation gets her wheels turning. When you stir her emotions you’ll get her wondering what is next. It is a fun unpredictable fun ride that girls particularly enjoy. America wants to be entertained.

Women make decisions very quickly if you are acceptable to them as a potential partner or just a friend. So you don’t want to come off extra nice and you want to be a little more confident than you should be.

Take Things In Order

Sat, 05 Jan 2008 16:13:16 +0000

First, if fear is the problem, you need to learn of confront fear and intimidation. Many can’t get in the game until they get past this issue. We are all hard-wired to feel fear over new beginnings, especially in the attractive relationship arena.

You must learn to be comfortable around women. The more successful you are the more comfortable you’ll be around them. To get comfortable with them you have to spend time with them and you can do that when you have no ulterior motive. After you feel comfortable and not nervous around them, you have a chance at talking to an attractive stranger without making her nervous or displaying other unattractive behavior.

So how do you treat the response’s you get from the new attractive woman you just met? First, she doesn’t really know you or you, for that matter, you don’t know her. Treat everything she says as sound bites that she uses with every other guy to filter out the crap that comes her way. Really hot women get dealt a lot of crap.

Women will balk if you go too far in an initial encounter. If you just met her settle for just her telephone number and/or email. If you get too forward by telling her she’s the most attractive girl you ever met and you want to take her out she’ll retreat.

If you’re talking on the phone, just arrange for a place to meet for coffee. Don’t rush and go beyond the next step or you get instant resistance.

Dealing With Breakups

Fri, 21 Dec 2007 07:02:20 +0000

An observant man, John Young says, "A smart man makes a mistake, learns from it, and never makes that mistake again. A wise man finds a smart man and learns from him how to avoid that mistake altogether."

Not everyone gains useful knowledge from the experience. Most explain away their failure, unwilling to stare into
the light and see that their sacred cow was just a cow.

Women leave for two reasons. There’s a breech from an intruder and/or you did not meet their expectations. And
every day that goes by where you do nothing you're leaving the barn door wide open for someone else to walk into her life.

If you do the wrong things the chasm will stay the same or deepen.

A woman’s expectations of how you will behave are formed during the early dating process. One reason why women leave is simply that their expectations were not met. The man stopped performing up to expectation and they are dismayed by the results.

As a man you have to understand her expectations of how she is going to have in a relationship and continue to create behaviorally those positive feelings in her. In other words, keep doing what you originally did to win her over in the first place. Keep creating that attraction that met her expectation in the first place.

You blew it with your girl and she’s seeing someone else. Lean back and take your time. Never, never tell her you’ll do anything to get her back. Never come off like a weakling.

You'll have to regain your self-composure, self-respect and your ability to feel good about life again after a breech.

Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today in your thinking. Don't reveal your true feelings to her. Keep them hidden.

Most breaches in a relationship occurred because one of the following building blocks was missing: mutual respect, valuing each other and caring for each other.

Without these fundamental building blocks relationships become risky. "A whole stack of memories never equal one little hope." - Charles M. Schulz, cartoonist

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The Dating Game

Tue, 18 Dec 2007 18:36:40 +0000

The Game

Perhaps the most important life choice you make will be the partner you choose. You’ll likely want the most attractive, the best character and disposition to live with and wake up to. In order to find your attractive best mate you’ll need to play a top-notch game to maximize your choices. You need high self-esteem so you can believe you deserve a 9 or 10 rated female.

If you suffer from low-self esteem you’ll feel you don’t deserve the best and not try for the exceptional, and if you’re game is not up to par, you’ll have difficulty even with the 7’s.

The game is like a computer game. There are 3 major divisions.

Attraction and Open – working on commonalties and merging techniques establishing comfort and trust.

Creating a Comfort Zone – emotional control of yourself. Slow play or fast play.

Bonding and Relationship – when a love relationship fails it will be the worst pain you’ve ever felt. The higher the joy you experience with that person, the deeper the pain you’ll suffer. You are opening yourself up to some intense pain … but it will be worth it.

Handling Crashes

* where you flash "the smile" and have demonstrated higher value without bragging.
* elicit attraction and indicators of interest
* make her feel like you’re not attracted to her but she is engaged in considering herself and you as a growing possible potential.

If you get shot down on #1, the quicker you get back into the game without the emotional baggage of rejection effecting you, the sooner you can start on the next round.

To get to know someone you want to ask open-ended questions and engage in a real conversation. Listen to her answers to learn and know what she is thinking about so you can form an idea about her personality. Is she a keeper, a friend or is it time to cut out and turn up a new leaf?